Child with Autism Accidentally Shoots Brother


A bizarre and tragic story has emerged out of Houston this week, where a 7-year-old child with autism accidentally shot and killed his 5-year-old brother after they were left alone in a motel room.

The boys’ father, Vincent Del Sol, was said to be paying the room’s bill when the older child shot his younger brother in the torso with a shotgun. The dad returned to the room to the horrifying scene and paramedics arrived shortly thereafter, but it was too late.

The family had been living in the Houston-area Motel 6 for a year after a move from California, due to the father’s ongoing search for employment. Del Sol told police he was planning to pawn his gun and some power tools to help make ends meet.

In another twist to this story, Child Protective Services (CPS) on Wednesday was granted temporary custody of the 7-year-old after a hearing was held in which the father did not show up for. The boy’s mother is currently in jail after being arrested last month on a probation violation charge stemming from a child endangerment incident several years ago, when the boy was found wandering alone near an interstate highway.

Investigators said the shooting was an accident, but the district attorney’s office is still deciding on whether or not the father will face any charges.

This story is very fluid and there are conflicting versions of events being reported. One thing is for certain: this family needed help. CPS was said to be previously involved in their lives, but it’s unclear how they managed to fall through the cracks.

Raising a child with autism is difficult enough with an intact, functional family unit. When other factors are involved, such as irresponsible parenting or unstable environments, the results can often lead to tragic and disastrous consequences.

Respite care for families of children with autism has been a growing need and such services would go a long way in preventing these types of tragedies in the future. More to come on this important issue.

The Stress of Recess for Children with Autism

playground alone autism

Parents of children with autism are painfully aware that recess time can be the worst part of their child’s school day. The piercing sound of the bell signals a time of loud, chaotic activity that is in and of itself difficult, but the inability to interact and play with their peers makes it a time of isolation and desolation for children on the spectrum. At a loss for how to help their child while away from them, parents often feel helpless upon hearing that their child cries or acts out at a time enshrined as a happy break from the rigors of the classroom.

When my twins were in elementary school, I would get reports about one of them crying the whole time at recess and the other getting in trouble with other boys, as if the onus was upon me to rectify the situation from afar. Eventually, one of my sons started retreating to the library instead of going outside, while the other sat in a corner of the playground alone under a tree. 

Now, the Playground Partners program of Arizona founded by Touchstone Behavioral Health is bringing therapists to the playground to assist children on the autism spectrum with initiating play, teamwork and conversations during school hours at recess. Trained aides encourage these children to start their own favorite game or activity on the playground and like iron filings drawn to a magnet, their classmates start to join in, much to the joy of the child. The mentors are ever present to help them navigate and mediate their surroundings, coaching them about maintaining appropriate personal space and other issues that may arise. 

The program is an unqualified success at helping vulnerable kids form friendships and helping to inoculate them from the staggering statistic that over 40% of children with autism experience bullying at school. Teachers appreciate the reduction in playground incidents and the time needed to resolve such disputes.

So what’s the downside of this? Parents of children with autism have to pay for the service which may or may not be covered by insurance. While doing a Google search, I found very few schools that have in-house recess facilitators for children with autism. One program in Seattle has a recess club for special needs kids, but that is a separate program where neurotypical children are welcome to join as well. 

If autism inclusion programs are to be genuinely inclusive, more attention must be paid to recess, so that what is supposed to be a release from the tension and cares of the day isn’t the most dreaded part of it.

Another Child with Autism Involved in Wandering-Related Death

John Burton Jr

John Burton, Jr.

In what has seemingly become an epidemic within the autism community, another child with autism has tragically drowned as a result of a wandering-related episode. Seven-year-old John Burton, Jr., from southeast Indiana, had just moved into a new neighborhood and disappeared while playing with the family dog. Burton’s mother noted that her son was unfamiliar with his new environment as they had just moved into their home the day earlier.

Search teams began looking for John soon after he disappeared and became increasingly alarmed when the boy’s dog returned home later in the afternoon, wet and alone. Burton’s body was discovered on Sunday in a nearby creek, one day after he went missing.

We have reported extensively on this site about the recent cases of autism-related deaths associated with wandering. With tragic incidents like these happening at a near-monthly rate, much more awareness and attention are needed for this out-of-control problem.

Some of the nation’s largest autism organizations have taken notice, and recently teamed up to form The Autism Wandering Awareness Alerts Response and Education (AWAARE) Collaboration. The group’s mission is to prevent wandering incidents and wandering-related deaths within the autism community through education, resources and awareness. They currently provide a free PDF wandering brochure, which can be downloaded at

Drowning has been cited as the leading cause of death for children and adults with autism, with a large majority of these incidents occurring during wandering episodes. Exposure deaths due to wandering have also been very problematic in recent years, most notably in the winter months. Here are a few recent cases that underscore just how serious this problem has become:

James Delorey – December, 2009. A seven-year-old boy with autism from Cape Breton, Nova Scotia, went missing after following his dog into a wooded area. He was later found huddled in the fetal position in thick brush and snow less than a mile from his home. He was rushed to the hospital, but eventually passed away from severe hypothermia and exposure.

Mason Medlam – July, 2010. Five-year-old with autism who died of his injuries after being pulled from a small pond in a town outside of Witchita, Kansas. Medlam wandered from his home out of a partially opened window and had been missing for more than a half-hour before being discovered.

Zachary Clark – August, 2010. A five-year-old boy with autism from Tucson, Arizona who was pulled from a golf course pond located less than a half-mile from his home. Despite efforts at CPR, Clark was pronounced dead shortly after being airlifted to a nearby hospital.

Nathan Kinderdine - August, 2010. A seven-year-old with autism from Ohio, wandered away from his class during a summer enrichment program at school. Kinderline was found by a custodian at the bottom of the school’s indoor swimming pool and although school nurses tried to revive him, he was pronounced dead shortly after his arrival to the hospital.

Skyler Wayne – October, 2010. An eight-year-old boy with autism who was found in an Idaho river three houses away from his home. Wayne was in the care of a babysitter at the time of the incident and was found in less than two feet of water. 

Savannah Martin – February, 2011. A seven-year-old girl from Oklahoma who was found face-down in a chilly pond about 50 yards from her home. Her two-year-old brother was also found with her in the water, but was face-up and buoyed by the Styrofoam in a bicycle helmet he had been wearing. Despite the efforts by the girl’s mother to revive her, Savannah was later pronounced dead.

Jackson Kastner – March, 2011. Four-year-old who drowned in a Michigan river after wandering from his home. The river was located 300 yards from Kastner’s home and swept him away — he was later found a mile-and-a-half downstream. The boy was airlifted to a hospital but attempts to revive him were unsuccessful.  

Adam Benhamama– April, 2011. A three-year-old boy who is both non-verbal and deaf, disappeared during a game of hide-and-seek while his father briefly went inside the house they were visiting. Adam’s body was recovered almost one month later over one mile downstream from where he initially disappeared.

Blake Murrell – April, 2011. A four-year-old youngster from Oklahoma that was found deceased in a duck pond a short distance from his home. Despite an investigation for potential negligence, Murrell’s family was exonerated in what police describe as "an unfortunate accident." 

John Burton, Jr. – June, 2011. Seven-year-old John had just moved into a new Indiana neighborhood and disappeared while playing with the family dog. A search was initiated when the dog returned home without John. Despite an intensive search, he was found the next day in a nearby creek.

Our thoughts and prayers are with the Burton family during this difficult time and hopefully, this will be our last story on this topic for the foreseeable future.

Gardening for those with Autism and Special Needs

In our modern society filled with stress, getting “back to the garden” is a good idea for everyone. According to a 2010 report released by the Royal Horticultural Society (RHS), teaching gardening to special needs children and young people is especially conducive to their development. Gardening is practical and process-orientated, suiting the visual and learning-through-doing needs of this group perfectly.

Ninety-five students with various developmental disorders, including autism, participated in a year-long study of teaching gardening in school. Over the course of the study, the avid gardeners grew in confidence and became more engaged in the activities, embracing a new level of responsibility for their own learning and progress. Interactions with one another and with adults improved as participants who once only wanted to work alone developed as members of a team. The students themselves reported that gardening calmed them down and made them happy.

Gardening can also be a gateway to meaningful future employment for young adults with autism. The first farm model for adults with autism was established at Somerset Court in England in 1974. 

BitterSweet Farms in Ohio is the first of its kind in the United States and currently has three campuses providing comprehensive services to individuals with autism. In North Carolina, Carolina Living and Learning Center is part of the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. New Hampshire-based Farmsteads of New England was established in 2000, and now Full Spectrum Farms in North Carolina has enjoyed huge success in its first year of operation, providing fresh fruit, vegetables and flowers to local restaurants and meaningful work to its residents with autism.

The quiet, simple life and meaningful work of farming is conducive to the well-being of individuals with autism. Whether you garden with your child on acreage, in your yard or with pots on your apartment balcony, the benefits are great. Here are some tips for gardening with your special needs child, courtesy of

* Paint your gardening tool handles a bright color so you can easily spot them when you’ve set them down.
* Improve your grip. Use colorful electrician’s or bicycle tape to add foam padding to hard-to-hold gardening tool handles.
* Go for the lightweight. Tools don’t have to be heavy to be sturdy. Aluminum handled and fiberglass reinforced nylon tools are both strong and lightweight. 
* Consider handle extenders for short tools. 
* Replace old and broken garden tools and tool handles with ergonomically correct models.

Interior Design for Children with Autism


A recent post by one of our authors demonstrating what it’s like to have autism inspired me to research the effect of color on children with autism, with the intention of offering suggestions for creating peaceful physical environments for them.

Color is a major issue in the design of spaces for children with autism and researchers have even found anomalies in the eye components of these individuals. Their rods and cones appear to have changed due to chemical imbalances or neural deficiencies.

In a test of children with autism, 85% saw colors with greater intensity than neurotypical children, with red appearing nearly fluorescent, and vibrating with intensity. Only 10% saw the color as neurotypical children do and only 5% of the children with autism saw muted colors. This small percentage of children would be alone in seeking out primary and other vibrant colors because they perceive everything as gray.

Muted colors have a calming effect upon children with autism. Pale pink has been demonstrated through tests to be their favorite color overall. Cool colors such as blue and green are also soothing. A monochromatic color scheme is preferable, designs in fabric and wall hangings should be non-linear and non-obtrusive. Primary colors should be limited to lightweight toys that can be put away.

Simplifying and reducing the amount of stimuli is of paramount importance. Keeping toys and books out of sight reduces clutter and stimulates verbal requests from the child. However, items such as coat and hat racks should remain in clear view to help the child learn the skills of independence.

Shades, with their multitude of lines, as well as drapes can be distracting. Inside mount blinds are optimal, with the window frame painted the same color to create a uniform effect. 

While carpeting is recommended for its noise reduction and safety features, a pre-finished hardwood floor overlaid with a 100% wool carpet, along with a jute back is best for its low toxicity and minimal chance of provoking allergies.

Lighting is also an important consideration as glare, noise and flickering can create sensory havoc. Uplighting or diffused lighting is suggested to reduce glare. Florescent lights are to be avoided.

Furniture should be heavy or bolted to the wall or floor. Bean bag chairs are touted for autism, but the suffocation risk is very real. Chairs are now made on the same principle, but stuffed with foam. 

I recently bought a papasan chair and my sons with autism adore it!

Yard sale season is upon us — good luck in clearing the clutter and creating a soothing home environment for your child with autism.

iPad App Giveaway to Raise Awareness for Autism and Special Needs

Previously, I wrote an article guiding parents towards the best iPad apps for expressive language that I discovered during the course of doing some research.

Today, while browsing my same source for that article, I discovered that on Saturday, June 11, 2011, beginning at 9 a.m. EDT, there will be an "App Party" at Gary James, an app researcher and father of two children with autism, has persuaded leading developers to donate over 3,000 apps to special needs families. James is also personally donating up to ten iPads that will be given away over the weekend as well.

This philanthropic event is designed to generate awareness of the multitude of apps available to families and educators and foster communication between developers and the people they serve. Seven iPads will also be randomly given away through a raffle-like event to individuals who have donated to the cause. Additionally, several other iPads and all apps will be given away unconditionally to those who simply join the Facebook page and participate virtually in the event.

James has emphasized that this is not a fundraising or revenue-generating event and has organized this strictly for autism and special needs awareness.

If you’re up on Saturday morning and at your computer, it might be worth checking out.

To learn more about the A4CWSN App Party, the video below further explains it in detail:

Managing Autism Meltdowns

Parents and caregivers of children with autism know that dealing with meltdowns is a part of life. We become adept at calming down our child as quickly and as best we can, whether at home or in public. It’s hard to surrender a child to environments where we are not present, knowing that others won’t know how to react. I’ll never forget the babysitter that called the fire department when one of my son’s had an anxiety attack. 

But nowhere is this more frustrating than at school, where children are frequently castigated and punished for exhibiting symptoms of their disorder. Countless times, I have shared my hard-earned strategies for managing my son’s meltdowns with teachers and administrators in hopes that they would employ strategies that would prove helpful instead of inflammatory. Only one teacher ever listened to me and that all-too-brief period my son spent in her classroom was the only time he made real gains in being part of a group and becoming self-regulating.

Special education teachers in Seattle’s school system aren’t required to have any training in autism, even the ones heading autism inclusion programs. Teachers don’t like being told how to do their jobs, especially by a parent they consciously or unconsciously hold responsible for the behavior of an unmanageable child. Members of your child’s IEP team can readily turn adversarial when their classroom strategies are questioned.

Recently, I found an article called “Managing an Angry Episode” on the website of Minds and Hearts, which is an Australian autism clinic where Dr. Tony Attwood works once a week.

I recommend downloading this pdf file and taking it to your next IEP meeting and/or presenting it to your child’s teacher. It could really help lay the groundwork for discussing best practices for coping with an inescapable reality of autism and the meltdowns associated with it.

YouTube User Demonstrates What it Feels Like to Have Autism

Many parents of children with autism often wonder what their child is thinking and feeling and frequently pose the question, "I wonder what’s going on inside of that head?" 

Well, thanks to a YouTube user that goes by the handle of WeirdGirlCyndi, viewers have been given the opportunity to briefly glance inside the mind of someone with autism.

Sensory processing disorder (SPD) is an often-debilitating condition that commonly exists in those with autism, although it’s not considered a core characteristic. Individuals with SPDs process the world in a much different way than neurotypicals, often causing "sensory overload." Because of these issues, many of those with autism (especially non-verbals) act out as a result of this overwhelming stimuli.

Some of the milder symptoms of sensory disorders include covering one’s eyes when exposed to normal lighting or covering one’s ears despite the absence of loud sounds. 

Late psychologist and occupational therapist Dr. A. Jean Ayres compared SPD to a neurological "traffic jam" that prevents certain parts of the brain from properly processing information from the outside world.

WeirdGirlCyndi does a great job in detailing these challenges and in her video description, writes the following:

"I am an autistic adult who is sick of so-called “experts” trying to explain what they think an autistic person is going through. They think they can “fix” autistic children by forcing them to act normal. Watch this video and see how normal you think ANYBODY can act when they’re going through what I simulate for you all."

Those with autism can experience sensory processing disorder in varying degrees and the video below is a fascinating look at the challenges some with autism endure on a daily basis, unbeknownst to those around them.

Be sure that your speakers are at a reasonable volume level before viewing the video (not too high). After viewing it, you’ll know why:

Autism Advocate Talks About Life on the Spectrum

Michael Buckholtz

Recently, I interviewed Michael Buckholtz, founder of Aid for Autistic Children Foundation and an individual with Asperger’s Syndrome and OCD. Michael is a songwriter, performer, multi-platinum record producer and among other things, has worked with M.C. Hammer during the course of his music career. He also served our country in the United States Navy.

After experiencing first-hand the financial toll autism takes on families, Michael wanted to make sure that the poor and underprivileged dealing with autism were given a fighting chance. Since 2007, he has been on a full-time mission in finding a solution to the financial disparity families and individuals coping with autism face. 

I love the work Michael is doing for the autism community and my exchange with him was both motivational and inspirational. Here are some excerpts:

Q:  Tell me about yourself, your family and your advocacy for autism.

A:  I was an obedient, high-strung child. I loved music and started composing songs by 8-years-old. I have two brothers, both on the spectrum — the oldest is a Desert Storm Army vet. My father is also on the spectrum. He’s a genius and an Air Force veteran. Also an Air Force veteran, my mom held us all together. She always felt like the odd person out, not really understanding our “language” or “behaviors.” I was in my late twenties when she made the discovery that we were all on the spectrum. That day I will never forget. No one was there to help our family when tough times hit us. When our wives left us, when employers and business owners released us because we were not catering to enough of the politics that permeates the workplace, times were very hard. I became a single parent because of my autistic quirks. No one fully understood us or really cared, especially in the black community. We did not look like the faces of autism the public had been made used to, so we often felt like we didn’t matter. As a result of my experiences, I started Aid for Autistic Children Foundation, Inc. using a large portion of my music royalties and with the help of my family.

Q:  What do you see as "mission critical" for the autism community?

A:  Educating autistic children without prejudice. As parents and educators, you have to drop literally everything you see or believe and start from a blank slate. If one’s child was blind, the first consideration isn’t to start looking for ways to “fix” them or ship them off somewhere. Autistic children are no different. These are human beings, first. Kindness and compassion should be the superior treatment these children receive. I know this will be difficult. Everyone needs to participate in this effort. Looking for ways to improve the lives of autistic children, rather than “fixing” them for personal comfort or convenience should be the focus. 

Q:  What are some of the issues adults with autism are dealing with?

A:  Many autistic adults, like me, wherever they fit on the spectrum, have felt systematically shut out of the broader national conversation about what our real needs are. In an effort to counteract this mainstream media misdirect, more autistic adults seem to have found a voice through social media such as Twitter, YouTube and Facebook. We feel abandoned. The primary focus is on the children, which is a good thing, but it should not be to the exclusion of adults on the spectrum who really need their community to understand the struggles they are having.

Q:  Several years ago, you went on a hunger strike. What did you want to accomplish and did you accomplish it?

A:  I wanted to bring attention to the financial disparity many families raising autistic children are experiencing and not just families with young children. I’m talking about elderly parents with autistic adults still living with them. Many cannot retire and all face certain poverty without some type of comprehensive debt relief program. I think I’ve done that.

Q:  What is your vision going forward?

A:  I want to duplicate the efforts of Aid for Autistic Children Foundation to meet the needs of everyone across the United States. I eventually want to bring this empowerment program to countries in South America, S.E. Asia, China, Africa, Middle East and Australia. I see a debt free and empowered autistic community around the world re-engaged and participating in our modern 21st century economy. Aid for Autistic Children Foundation will also be a chief employer of the autistic and of parents who advocate for them.

Q:  What keeps you going?

A:  Knowing how much my mom sacrificed emotionally and physically. She suffered many emotional setbacks and even a stroke, brought on by emotional stress, while continuing to help me, my brothers and father. I owe her and I owe no less to myself and the autistic community. I just want to make things better for a lot of people who remain forgotten or purposefully dismissed. I’m also looking forward to marrying, again. I have to work extraordinarily hard to make a life possible for us. I will not quit until I do.

Q:  Why is it so difficult for adults with autism to find jobs?

A:  Firstly, we are already adults. That means we need to be working, productive members of society right now. The corporate perception is that adults (in general) are NOT the innovative thinkers. It’s the young people. That already leaves adults, as a whole, out of job-seeking contention. So, the first big issue is the perception that adults in the workplace are no longer useful, therefore, ineligible for job placement. If you are autistic, well, there’s a whole other more socially entrenched problem of office politics that keeps many adults on the spectrum out of contention for employment or regularly terminated from employment. The good news is that in other countries many American’s consider “Third World,” they are doing amazing well in hiring autistic adults. Many of us have the ability to work independently of others doing tedious and rigidly repetitive work. For example, we make great software systems testers (I’d REALLY enjoy doing that, myself!). We can be quite precise in our attention to detail. There are plenty of reasons to hire autistic adults, but because of the demonization leveled at people who are considered ‘disabled’, it’s going be tough to convince a skeptical corporate elite that a mass-hiring of autistic adults may raise their level of efficiency, while improving quality control. 

Q:  What is the next step for your organization?

A:  We’re gearing up for a national Aid for Autistic Children Foundation sponsored capital campaign event called The H.A.P.P.Y.™ Project (Helping Autistic People Progress Yearly). We will begin in our headquarters in Macon, Georgia, focusing on those families raising autistic children and autistic adults that need financial relief the most. The capital campaign will eventually make its way to other states and we will make those dates and locations known as soon as we have them.

Q:  How did you get to meet and work with M.C. Hammer?

A:  When in the Navy, I was assigned to bunk in a room with a fella by the name of Stanley Kirk Burrell while deployed in Japan. His nickname was Hammer or “Hamm,” for short. I purchased a lot of music equipment in Japan, where we were stationed and from there, we started to really connect. After our tour of duty, we kept in touch. A few years and $45 million dollars later (not my dollars!), I was in the middle of working for the most popular rap artist in the world. I was 19-years-old at the time we met.

Q: What would you like your legacy to be when it comes to autism?

A:  I just want to leave a legacy of music, kindness and compassion for all types of people. I love people — not in a "customer service" kind of way. I’m deeply fascinated by how we are made. Human beings are amazing and are capable of so much that is positive and wonderful and I’d like to see us one day tap into that awesomeness. I’m an autistic person and hope that just being the person I am will be enough of a legacy for the cause.

Morgan’s Wonderland: A Theme Park for Special Needs Children

Morgan's Wonderland

Last week, one of our authors posted an article about some sensory challenges her child experienced while on a trip at Disney World.

With these types of issues common for special needs guests at theme parks, San Antonio-based philanthropist Gordon Hartman recently opened “Morgan’s Wonderland,” a 25-acre amusement park designed for special needs children, while still appealing to everyone.

Inspired by his own disabled daughter’s exclusion from playground activities, the park is both innovative and heartwarming, with attention paid to every detail, including a Braille-decorated jungle gym wide enough to fit two wheelchairs side-by-side, waist high sandboxes accessible to all and an indoor extravaganza of activities called “Sensory Village." 

Generously spread out, yet designed to not be exhausting, the one-year-old park has about 20 attractions from active (Butterfly Playground) to easygoing (a train circling a mile-long loop through the park and around a lake). Most tranquil is the Sitting Garden, a quiet enclave that’s a favorite among parents of children with autism.

The first of its kind in the nation, Morgan’s Wonderland has attracted more than 100,000 guests to San Antonio, despite having little national advertising. Individuals with autism, orthopedic impairments, mental retardation and seizure disorders are among the most regular visitors, yet all children will enjoy its many opportunities.

As guests arrive at the park, they are assigned special RFID (Radio Frequency Identification) wristbands that identify their family or group. Monitor stations are located throughout the park and if a family becomes separated, they can quickly be reunited when a bracelet is scanned.

In a true testament to the generosity of the park’s creator, admission for people with special needs is free and adults accompanying them are just $10. General admission is $15. Reservations are recommended as the number of guests is limited to ensure the quality of the experience. However, people traveling long distances and arriving without reservations won’t be turned away.

Morgan’s Wonderland also features a community outreach in the form of an Adaptive Sports and Fitness Program, Scholastic Field Trips and Extended Learning Outreach. The Monarch Academy, a special-needs school initially serving grades six through twelve, will be opening at the end of this summer.

More info can be found at

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