Wow--reading your post was like reading my daughter's life. She is now 16 (dx'd at 25 months by doc, earlier by me), and is as happy as can be now. She still does not play nor speak, but she does love to people-watch. Numerous therapies have been tried over the years, but ABA programs worked the best. It took me several years to get her to tone down her arm-flapping and other such stimming behaviors, but it can be done. The "Patience of Job" is helpful too. Glad to meet you all!