Joseph
(New Member)
06/06/11 07:15 AM
Desperate Father in Need of Help

I have a 5 and a half year old son who was just diagnosed as having very high functioning Autism with some speech delay and language delay. He is a gem with the sweetest heart and is so capable with math, computers, sports and other things far beyond his years.

My wife has been planning to divorce me for two years without my knowledge and hit me with divorce papers two months ago. We live in FL but she is a Canadian by birth and wants to unilaterally take our son with her to Canada and therefore I would never see him again essentially.

I was caught totally off guard, she had already plans for two years and was running fast and furious. I since found out she had stolen huge amounts of money from our savings and my company which I guess was to be able to fund her getaway.

I have been a fully involved father to my son his entire life. I understand the law and all the attorneys are telling me she will never leave the country and I will get 50% shared custody.

Nevertheless I feel horrified I did not see this coming and every study I read says children with Autism cannot maintain strong relationships in long distances. Meaning even if I call everyday and put him on Skype, my bond with him will eventually and quickly break. Also I am reading that the children will suffer extremely and get resentful of the parent who is taking them away. I know each day that I leave him back at home with his mother he is screaming why is mommy so bad and not letting daddy be with him. He is having nightmares that I am leaving him and he will never see me again; it breaks me to hear those cries in his sleep.

I have no idea what to do, she is draining me with motions trying to bankrupt me before I can get to court in 7 weeks with motion and allegation after one another and never ending. I believed I was a good husband but definitely I know I am a great father and caregiver to my son. I wonder if there are any fathers out there that had similar experiences and how they managed to get through it and also ideally win to keep their children.

Thank you,


Jazmin
(New Member)
07/02/11 09:54 PM
Re: Desperate Father in Need of Help

Can you move to Canada? That is a horrible thing she is doing, if she loves her son, she should try and work things out. the situation she is putting her son in, isn't going to help his autism, and will definitely put a negative spin on relationships for him. I'm sorry, and hope you stay strong, don't letbhim go. Take care.

Lisalt23
(New Member)
09/27/11 12:14 PM
Re: Desperate Father in Need of Help

I hope you and your wife can still reconcile. Anyway, from what I have read, Canada is good to its children especially children with autism. My brother always mention this to me and from some of the articles I have read, Canada maybe is a good place to raise a child with autism.


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