Autism Message Boards: My thoughts on mothers and autism

I'm a male K-6 special education teacher. I have worked as a Behavioral Therapist for four years prior. I have an MA is Educational Psychology in addition to my credential. Most of my kids have moderate and some severe cases of autism. Almost all of them require 1:1's.
Here's my thing- the mothers. I honestly believe that for some mothers, having an autistic child is "trendy." I believe most of those mothers would post on here. What better way to get attention then to have an autistic child. It's funny because we get these kids and we test them. Some of them don't even have autism but the mothers insist they do. We have independant specialists that cost a lot of money who agree they are not autistic. The only people with the problems are the mothers. These mothers think they know more than the professionals.
The worst offenders are the single mothers. They're hysterical (boyfriend/money/family/etc drama), paranoid (God forbid a MALE teaching children!), controlling but at the same out-of-control. Everything is about them and their ego. I have some mothers who actually want to sit in all day with their kids because they "want what's best for their child." These are the same mothers who feed their kids junk food, dump pills down their throat and are at the principal's office every other day with some complaint.
The biggest complaint that I get from you mothers is that I'm too hard on your kids. Some of you have even called me a "bully." I don't baby, coddle or enable your children's bad behavior that they learned from you. It sends mix messages. Your child doesn't understand why they don't get their way when they throw a tantrum. They don't understand why I don't feed them soda and candy like you mothers do. They especially don't understand why I actually follow through with my class rules.
What they also don't get is why I don't yell and scream at them when they screw up like their mothers do. They don't understand why I don't criticize them for everything like their mothers do and why I praise them for good work like their mothers do not do. I am the only stable adult in their lives and most of the time, the only male adult in their lives.
The difference between how my kids are in school and at home is like day and night. I have kids who were doomed to spend all of their school days in special day classes but are now in general education classes. I have kids who were doomed to be ostracized by their peers but are now popular. They get invited to parties. I had students now in high school that can get dates. They're independant and confident. They love being in school. I treat my kids with respect, integrity and I take my ego out of it. I know my students love, respect and appreciate me (when they get old enough to). This was what mothers consider to be a "bully."

I want to thank the mothers who aren't afriad to get tough with their kids. They are the only ones who really care about their kids. Those are the kids who end up sucessful.
I had this two second grade boys who were very disrespectful. One mother took care of him real well and he never showed me disrespect again. The other mother picked him up and babied him. The she took him out for McDonalds.
Again, that's the minority.