Over five years ago, when we first received our son’s autism diagnosis, one
of the first questions I remember asking myself was, "Why me?"
"Was I being punished for something I had previously done?"
and "What did we do to be dealt such a painful lot?"
It’s reasonable to assume that most parents have posed these tough questions at some point during their autism journeys. However, as I’ve come to embrace my son’s condition over the years and after spiritual growth and maturity, my question now is, "Why not me?"
Some of the most compelling verses in the Bible that deal with this vexing issue can be found in John 9:1-3.
When encountering a man who was blind from birth, Jesus’ disciples asked him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?”
The response from Jesus, in my opinion, helps address most of these difficult questions we have related to my child’s condition: "“Neither this man nor his parents sinned,” said Jesus, “but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in him."
When looking at our challenges from this perspective, we will soon discover that there is a greater purpose for our pain and trials. We have been called to be light in the midst of darkness and to bring hope to others who are facing similar challenges, all while God can be glorified in the process.
I realize that for some, this may not be applicable due to your particular beliefs. However, this does not change the fact the YOU have been chosen for a greater purpose and YOU have been called to step up, step out, and be a beacon of hope to others.
Perhaps you will one day run a major autism organization. Perhaps you will
start a local support group. Maybe you will be a political advocate and bring
forth legislative changes in regards to people with autism and other special
needs. Or maybe you will be there for only one family, providing hope and
support for them during their darkest hours.
Do not waste the opportunity you have been given through your child’s condition to leave an everlasting mark that will bring hope and inspiration for many more families that are sure to follow our path.
I am not "cursed" nor am I "being punished" for what has happened. To the contrary, I have been given an incredible gift and an opportunity to make a difference in other people’s lives, all while allowing God to be seen through me, glorifying Him in the process.